While we would have loved to share this story with you personally, we're not sure our hearts could have survived disclosing the news several hundred times.
We're grateful to have incredible friends and family, but discussing everything with everyone was a tall order.
Though we've come a long way, and feel more at peace with our infertility struggles, we fully expect this to be a lifetimechallenge.
Sounds daunting, doesn't it? Perhaps it's better to look at challenges as opportunities.
For example, my opportunity affords me the chance to know my wife on a deeper level than I probably realized possible. If Sara and I don't have kids, 100 percent of my focus will be on her, and her focus on me. And she's something wonderful, let me tell you.
Thinking about it like that, I can't not be grateful for the incredible things in my life.
We've been dealt a lousy hand, as have countless others in challenging situations, but we won't fold. We want to continue playing. In our minds, life's too precious to raise the white flag early, to crumble under the weight of our trials.
It's much easier said than done, but if we learn to embrace challenges, even while staring down overwhelming grief, we can overcome any difficult situation.
Sara and I have felt crushing grief at times, and we don't expect that to ever truly go away. Grief is a natural response to loss. Though it's scary, we believe it important to let that grief overwhelm you temporarily.
We're allowed to feel pain. It's real. It hurts. It's okay to hurt.
What we must learn to do is ultimately shed ourselves of that grief or learn to carry it along, demanding it make us stronger.
Everyone faces challenges. Some small, some large. If we view challenges as opportunities, that may change how we approach difficult situations.
Give it a try. If it doesn't work the first time, try again. We promise to do the same.